On Twitter, Oct. 18, 2014
"Change is inevitable. The trick in life is not to try to avoid change, but to create the change. Then it's the change you choose." ~ Neale Donald Walsch @NealeDWalsch Author of Conversations with God
This is such a heavy thought to carry in my head. Choosing to create the change is scary, but it always feels better than the waiting & fearing. I have been known to wait afraid to make a decisions in hopes of life just forcing the issue out of what appears is my control.
At several points in my life, it felt safer, easier to see what change everyone else would create for me, rather than me just doing what I felt was best. Sometimes, I felt I just didn't know really what outcome I wanted. Other times, I just didn't want to expose myself for wanting a specific outcome that might not be too popular or the grown up expected outcome. It is hard to admit that sometimes what I want is the selfish option, that only serves me.
Choosing to create the change or an outcome means you have a 50/50 chance of success. It also means that if you make the wrong decision, then you are held accountable for your failure. Failures are typically very public, painful and defeating. I listened to a brief video posted on Facebook of Oprah explaining that she feels there are no bad decisions, no failures.
" You may think it's the "wrong track" you've chosen, a mistake, but they all lead to the right path. There are no wrong paths." ~Oprah Winfrey
I really like this concept of everything is as it is supposed to be to get you where you need to be. When I look back at the big decisions I had to make or that I allowed to be made for me, I do feel they took me exactly where I needed to be, each time. Even the times life took me meandering through the mountains and valleys and all seemed lost, I still ended up right where I needed to be to meet the next idea, person, or path.
Like most, I resist change, although life has given me very little consistency. Preacher's kid to military brat, change every two years or so has been status quo for as long as I could remember. "Change" and I have been close friends for over 40 years. It is time for me to accept "change" as one of my longest held friendships. It is time for me to embrace her as my partner even though she has weathered so many storms at my side. If I can see her as part of my life's journey and not as my enemy, maybe I will learn to enjoy her visits a bit more. If I could just accept that there are no wrong paths, I would enjoy each day so much more.
I think one of the first Ah-ha moments or enlightened moments most of us experience is when we realize that change is the only constant in life. I have to repeat that to myself like a mantra, "Change is the only constant in life." We hear it and it resonates, but then we spend the next decade fighting truly accepting this into our being.
I know time never stands still, and that each second that ticks by ushers in change after change, after change, but I spend way too much time clutching the door frame with hands and feet clinging to moments that have already passed me by. I need to surrender to change. I need to make peace with change.
I love the idea that my failures, and my victories are not permanent. That takes a little of the pressure off as I become an active participant in creating my life.