Beside letting go of the stories I keep telling myself about who I am and what I came from, I started thinking about my forgiveness list again. A couple of weeks ago I started thinking about all of the people I need to forgive. People who have hurt my feelings, broke my heart, disappointed me and people who I want to forgive me for hurting their feelings, breaking their hearts, and disappointing them.
I reached out to a few people. One of them reached out to me and said that they had no idea I was still carrying this anger. This is what I was thinking about this morning.
I didn't know I was still carrying that anger either. I made my peace with the situation years ago, and while I have not actively thought of them, I realized that it is actually kinda weird that I still had them mentally blocked in my life. I realized that I still have an emotional energy cord to that situation that is holding me back.
It made me start thinking what other old situations and old relationships am I still tethered to? I found a lot of great healers who will "cut cords" for you, but being the emotional person I am, I need to be able to do this for myself as I attach myself and allow myself to be attached to frequently. I found a website where the healer made it very easy to understand how I can cut the cords.
Amanda Linette Meder, Clairvoyant Medium - Author - Spiritual Educator
"You can tell if you have an energy cord if you are preoccupied with an issue, situation, conservation, belief system, judgement, or attitude that belongs to someone else. Can't 'get over' something? Chances are, there's a cord linking you to this person, place or thing. You can also tell if you have a cord if you have a great amount of love, affection, and compassionate feelings for another."
There are some cords you want to keep because cords can be beneficial. Many of us are blessed to have loving cords with someone that allow us to know when our loved one is feeling down or needs us. But if a cord is "inhibiting the growth of you as a soul or preventing you from ‘moving forward’ in your life," then it is time to cut it.
I like to think of the cord cutting having more to do with the emotion or situation than cutting all ties with the person. I am sure I have some people I need to do a final cutting with, but I have found that most of the cutting I need to do is over situations assumed or real that keep me emotionally bound to someone long after I have given or received forgiveness.
Here is what I pulled from Amanda's How To. Click here to see the full article.
1. Identify it.
2. Examine it.
3. Cut it. This is the one I needed. Amanda says that once you have identified which cords need to be cut, then you choose how you will cut the cord. Will it be with a knife, a huge pair of scissors or with the help of your Angels or Spirit Guides? Once you decide on your cutting tool, then cut the cord.
"Then, set the intention that the energetic exchange between you and X now, whole, complete, and is ended in the past, present, and for the future."
4. Follow up. Amanda says "While they may not consciously realize anything happened - their spirit will know." She says to be aware that if the other person is needy or co-dependent and wanted to keep the cord, they will try to reattach it.
"They can think about you (and in turn, you will think about them), they could text or call you, send you a message, or get a friend to contact you. If you’d like to keep the cord cut, you’ll want to resist interacting with this person in any way until they ‘get the hint’ that you aren’t interested in engaging and being attached to their energy."
For me it is very easy to be drawn back in and to have the cord reconnected. Amanda says that this isn't always a one time deal. With some people, you will need to keep cutting the cord after each attempt is made to reconnect.
After the cord is cut, Amanda has the sweetest final ritual. She send pink healing and loving light to seal the cut. She says to, "simply visualize whitish pink light shining down on them from above, as though a spiritual window has opened from the Other Side (Heaven), and sending it’s love down to them."
I have an awful lot that I am avoiding dealing with right now, so having this diversion to focus on for a couple of days is much needed.
I am going to spend my meditation or quiet time on thinking about who I still feel connected to that isn't serving me, on what emotional ties I need to let go of on anything that isn't allowing me to move forward.
I love how easy and quick this whole ritual is. I love that I now have a "closure" for the forgiveness process.
How to Cut Cords with Someone, Amanda Linette Meder